But the Party: Elope, then Party
I’ve talked elopements & intimate weddings up a lot, because around here I think they’re just the greatest way to get married.
But I often get asked, what about the party?
So, enter our newest series “But the Party,” where I break down ways to celebrate your marriage with those who didn’t get to see you say I do.
Some posts to look forward to:
- cake & punch dance party
- backyard bash
- picnic in the park
For today, I'm going to give you some enticing reasons why you may want to first elope, then party.
Why do both?
Some people may wonder, if you’re just going to have a party anyway, why not just have a wedding?
Well, eloping allows you to really relish the moment & gravity of your wedding day without all of the distractions that traditional weddings have.
By having a party later, you take away the expectations that go along with weddings because you're just throwin' a party.
What's the difference, though? Isn't a wedding a party?
A wedding is like a party on steroids
During the wedding planning process, couples are bombarded by both the Industry & their friends/family about what a wedding *should* be.
Folks who are invited to a wedding expect certain things
This is mostly because of societal standards regarding weddings, but also because modern weddings tend to follow the same script: ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, dancing, cake.
Throwing a party instead of a wedding allows you to structure your event in any way, without expectations.
Obviously any of the subsequent parties I suggest could also be your wedding (& if they are, please invite me), but the reason I say they should just be parties is so you can focus on starting your marriage on your wedding day, not having a wedding.
Sensing a pattern yet?
I've said it before & I'll say it again: getting married is a big damn deal.
You are committing yourself to this one person for the rest of your life.
Too often I have heard tales of couples not spending time together on their wedding day because they were so focused on being good hosts to their guests.
& that's great -- for your guests.
But don't you think your wedding should be focused on your partner & the life you are vowing to each other?
Raise your hand if you are spending your engagement stressing about dietary restrictions, centerpieces, or who walks where when?
My dream for my couples is that they can spend their wedding day all goo-goo eyed, daydreaming about what the future holds for them & discussing what the promises they made to each other will look like.
That's why I'm such a big fan of elopements.
They are so freaking romantic.
Are you a romantic? Let us help you with your fancy elopement.
photos by Grayson Rosato